Here I was discussing with a friend how sex has become more complicated after 40 years. Or rather, she talked, and I listened and was sad.
What about when you were young? Passion, hormones, and “oh, not me!!!”
And after forty everything is much more complicated.
Firstly, you are “not sixteen, and not the first,” which means you will be stuck for a month. Well, so as not to think that you are some kind of easy prey. No, in principle, flowers and gifts are not necessary, but they are still necessary. Unless you're an asshole. Restaurants, photo biennials, Van Gogh exhibitions, conversations about the poetry of the Silver Age and Akunin.
Okay, not an asshole, let's say. Good man, you can go visit. And you go. And from the threshold you begin to shoot at all sorts of signs of female residence in this territory. Even if a man thinks that his ex took everything, including even magnets from the refrigerator, he is mistaken. In any case, there will be cotton pads lying around in the bathroom, pencils rolled under the washing machine, and in the kitchen there will certainly be a mug with the inscription “My male Vova!”
And you’re like: Yeah, I recently spat with a woman. On the one hand, this is good, on the other hand, he’s a hemorrhoid guy. Baba will sit and sit right now, wait until Friday, get drunk, start calling and crying, “Vova, I’m in shit, take me out of here!” - and Vova will rush to take it away, because the feelings have not yet cooled down and all that. Well, a mug, again. And they will tell you: Baby, I’m sorry, I still love her.
so you need to be on your guard.
What else can you burn in one or two minutes? A pile of socks under the chair. This means that I’m used to the fact that the woman usually scoops it all up, swears and washes it. A dependent man. Even the guy is a shitty guy. Unreliable. Van Gogh and Akunin were completely destroyed at once.
If you're lucky, you can find a place where the guy keeps his medicine. Because every man has medicine. And it’s okay if it’s some kind of analgin or aspirin. Otherwise, it happens that there is such a first aid kit that you hang out like a Pentium alone: for diarrhea, and for constipation, and Viagra, and trichopolum with nystatin, and ointment for lichen, and suppositories for hemorrhoids, and a bucket of validol.
And everything with him is immediately clear: his stomach is weak, his heart is weak too, everything else is scary to even think about. And it’s not worth it, and everything is sick. Plus hemorrhoids, and lichen is in question.
How to start a relationship with someone like that? Should I get married? But no way. We must get out of here under any pretext. Except for the pretext: “I have a headache.” This pharmacist will immediately feed you with all his validol-pyramidons, of which he has a cart and a cart. So you need to lie about the milk and the iron running away.
The situation is the opposite with the woman whom the man came to visit. At this point, my friend and I listed all the shameful failures of women, including a bra with a triple push-up hanging in the bathroom, cream for varicose veins, pills for blood pressure, a thermal mask for cellulite, shampoo for baldness and a wig on a three-liter jar. That is, it definitely didn’t work out to look like a young, healthy, cellulite-free and bushy-haired girl.
And you can’t foresee everything. You can get stuck on anything. Therefore, normal people over 40 prefer dates in hotels or rented apartments.
And this is how to live in general? How to create families? All of them are already so smart, savvy, with a trained eye. And no riddles for you: neither in a woman, nor in a man.
One thing pleases: Love still exists. And if it is she, then you don’t care about his first aid kit, or his mug, or his socks. And he doesn’t care about the cream for varicose veins and the foam rubber in your bra, which is more there than in the sofa.
I don't believe in love that happens at 18, I believe in love that happens after 40.
I think there is no need to explain why.
Love to all
Women, young and not so young, need to feel beautiful and attractive. Fashion for overweight women over 60 years of age provides such an opportunity.
Figure flaws and advanced years are not at all a reason to abandon current trends and give up on yourself. Spectacular, elegant clothes maintain vitality, help you feel in demand and energetic.
Fashion trends for plus size women over 60 years old
For older women with curvy figures, it is important to dress in simple silhouettes. But this simplicity should be achieved by the complexity of the cut: transfer of seams, grooves, diagonal lines, wrap effect, multi-layering. Combinations of close-fitting and voluminous items, draping or dense fabrics are relevant.
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- Trousers. They should be straight or slightly tapered at the bottom, with a high waist, elastic wide belts and always long - covering the lower leg. For spring and summer, you can purchase models made of linen or fine cotton.
- Skirts. Preferably plain: A-line or year. In the summer, you can wear light, floor-length models with elastic with floral discreet prints.
- Jackets. Made from textured fabrics, with classic English lapels or without a collar, wide ¾ sleeves, length to the beginning of the hips.
- Cardigans. There should be a lot of them and different: openwork summer, elongated, thick knitted, thick smooth knitwear, with and without fasteners.
- Tunics. Light, loose, silky fabrics, mid-thigh length, with shawl collars or shallow necklines.
- Dresses. There should be several of them: for various official, special occasions, walks, and recreation. This fashion season, preference should be given to models made from fabrics that hold their shape well. Stretch or flowing ones are too close to the body, outlining the existing volumes.
- Coat. We recommend single-breasted models made of wool, tweed, cashmere, just below the knee length, with large, eye-catching buttons.
- Denim clothes. It is advisable to have not only trousers, but also skirts, jackets, and dresses. Denim models should have a classic cut, without the effect of wear, stripes or rivets. Denim style will also help.
The main thing when creating an image
Women over sixty years old, in order to look great, need to avoid clothes made from cheap fabrics that are not appropriate for their age or size.
Negligence and the combination of things from different styles in one image are unacceptable. The main principle when choosing a wardrobe is intelligence. The basis should be elegant and stylish basic models in rich or light shades, which can be supplemented from time to time with fashionable new items.
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A win-win option is a knee-length dress with a straight or trapezoidal cut. You should choose an elongated jacket or cardigan to match it.
Silk linen shirts or blouses with an elongated peplum go great with trousers and skirts.
Looks good on overweight ladies, in military style: dresses and jackets with shoulder straps, flaps, decorative pockets, and button strips.
You should be careful with oversized clothing: lightweight models fit well on most figures, jumpers and thick sweaters can make them shapeless and baggy.
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Color spectrum
Black and white, often recommended as basic colors, are too categorical and look better on young people. At an advanced age, they should be avoided or diluted with other shades. You should not wear snow-white or too dark blouses: they highlight wrinkles on the face and neck more sharply.
- wine;
- amber;
- turquoise;
- mint;
- azure;
- ashy;
- golden brown;
- lilac.
Maturity—smart maturity—can be beautiful. And further. Bright makeup or pink hair in itself does not make you look younger, and a long skirt does not make you look old. Poor health, negligence and inappropriateness make you old. Lack of discipline ages you, even at thirty. So, when going to bed, don't forget to take off your makeup and don't eat a lot of sweets. And be young.
The other day, seeing me coming from the store with two bags in my hands, a neighbor, the same age as my mother, inquired: “Why without a scooter? You’re great with your scooter!” Yes, I’m 44, and sometimes I get a little bored walking two kilometers from the bus stop in the evenings. But, alas, you can’t load two large bags onto a scooter. Although... in the spring we will have to think about this issue.
About age: Girl, lady or grandmother?
- Through the eyes of our grandmothers
- Grandmothers or girls?
Through the eyes of our grandmothers
I remember well how my grandmother reprimanded my mother that “at 35 with two children, being size forty-four is INDEMNITE.” And the phrase “I don’t need light anymore, I would like something darker,” which was uttered by grandmothers’ peers, too. Perhaps they were the last generation in my memory that knew exactly who at what age what was appropriate, decent and proper. But, if you think about it, they had a completely different life.
People then got married soon after eighteen, certainly to a “boy from a good family” with the sole purpose of living a life together, giving birth and raising children. A woman traditionally took care of the house, her education was sometimes worse, and sometimes even none at all, so “getting married well” meant, first of all, a comfortable and sometimes interesting life.
It was necessary to get married early in order to “have time”: there was no cosmetics, so the skin deteriorated instantly, we traditionally have fewer men, and simple medicine called a woman after thirty “old-born,” and not with the various euphemisms that are used now.
No one told me this directly, but now I understand: in the first half of the 20th century, marriage was still a means of survival. The salaries were such that the savings from living together seemed a tangible argument in favor of marriage. It was still difficult to raise children with this money, and the food and hard physical work were such that by the age of thirty a woman began to “blurry.” And then, apparently, the replacement worked: “Being thin and slender at the age of “for...” is indecent.” You begin to be proud of what you cannot change - if not in appearance, then in your status as a respected mother of the family.
Around the age of 45, menopause began, and with it a short period when the woman was still pretty, but was no longer afraid of getting pregnant, noted among the people by the proverb about the “woman-berry.”
At 50, a woman became a young working grandmother, and by retirement she became a traditional grandmother - with cute wrinkles, a scarf, socks, pies and fairy tales. Well, or in the urban version - with bright dresses and scarves, partly compensating for poor youth, but still with pies.
But since then everything has changed.
Grandmothers or girls?
A significant portion of my peers were raised by divorced mothers. The stories of these divorces were different: some “didn’t get along”, some simply decided that it was easier to be alone, some were then happily happy in their new marriage. But women now worked not only around the house, they had education, often more than one, and better than men. In their instructions, the time to get married was pushed back to the term “finish college first,” and the family ceased to be perceived as something “from eighteen and forever.” And along with this border, everything else went.
It's not just that cosmetics have become better. And not in plastic surgery, which only a few resorted to at that time. But it was in my mother’s generation, it seems to me, that what we have now began to be laid.
Now it is normal and not reprehensible to return to your previous weight after childbirth, or even lose five kilograms. In the city, a woman over 40 will no longer be asked what the venerable mother of the family forgot in the gym or ballet class. Today, those aged 18 to 55 dress in the same stores, often even in the same clothing lines. Today's forty-year-olds still have several decades of active life ahead of them, and perhaps more than one education. More and more people are no longer considering the last third of life as “survival.”
With such generous prospects, some people seem to have lost their heads. Strict rules have disappeared, style differences have become subtler, and much more often, alas, I now see a bend in the opposite direction. Sometimes, even in glossy magazines, you read some article about cheerful punk old ladies whose “outfit” costs hundreds of pounds. And then you see their embodiment in Russian everyday life - tight cotton leggings on a size 56 woman, a chipped bright manicure and purple lipstick on her lips. "So what? Old age has been cancelled! Now we are all girls."
But our “girls” stubbornly refuse to be ladies. Lady is too subtle a concept that they have not been able to understand, it seems, since the time of Alexander Sergeevich.
“She was leisurely, not cold, not talkative...”
Once I interviewed the heroine. An inexperienced male eye would probably decide that she was forty or forty-five years old. A woman experienced in the methods of modern cosmetology would understand that it is much more, but got confused in the numbers. The schoolchildren's sons completely confused the picture.
She hosted a large event, and we saw her for several days in a row, in a variety of situations and even at different times of the day. In the finals, when the team fell asleep from fatigue, as soon as they leaned against something stable, she was just as calm and friendly. During this time, she managed to flash in both evening and “civilian” clothes, but not once did I see her with an untidy head, an incorrect - awkwardly fitting - dress or uncomfortable shoes.
It was clear: everything I see is the subject of great and constant work on myself: gym, moderation in food, most likely massage, and other specialists. But it was not for show, it did not bother me at all, but, on the contrary, aroused admiration. Honestly, I then thought that there were women in the world who were born wearing heels and who were given grace and plasticity by nature, although I suspect that not everything there was by nature.
From that meeting I concluded that maturity - intelligent maturity - can be beautiful. And further. Bright makeup or pink hair in itself does not make you look younger, and a long skirt does not make you look old. Poor health, negligence and inappropriateness make you old. Lack of discipline ages you, even at thirty. So, when going to bed, don't forget to take off your makeup and don't eat a lot of sweets. And be young.published.
Daria Mendeleeva
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness, we are changing the world together! © econet
These women are adored by millions. Their talent is amazing, and their beauty seems eternal. Many of them are well over 40, but they still look and feel amazing. Today we will enjoy the beauty of these beautiful representatives of the fairer sex, who become more and more charming and luxurious over the years. Take a look, perhaps here you will find your favorite actress or woman whom you would like to be like in your forties.
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1. Monica Bellucci, 50 years old.
The Italian diva has remained the standard of femininity and beauty for many years. Surprisingly, the actress does not diet and avoids fitness clubs. "I love me. Therefore, I cannot torment myself with exercise and hunger. Love yourself and you will never need braces or plastic surgery."
2. Halle Berry, 48 years old.
Almost 30 years have passed since she became Miss USA 1986. Despite diabetes and late birth of a child, at 48 the actress looks simply amazing.
3. Meryl Streep, 65 years old.
The actress has never been fanatical about her appearance. She believes that this issue should be approached from the point of view of beauty and health. The main secret of the legendary actress is a positive outlook on the world and moderation in everything.
4. Penelope Cruz, 40 years old.
“I have never hidden my age. When I look at actresses whom I respect, I understand that they have never been ashamed of their age. Women like Sophia Loren and Audrey Hepburn aged very gracefully.”
5. Salma Hayek, 48 years old.
As Salma herself says, she learned self-care and self-care from her grandmother, who worked in a hairdresser. “She was an alchemist and a sorceress rolled into one - it was from her that I learned many beauty secrets.”
6. Renata Litvinova, 48 years old.
"Sometimes I look at pictures of myself and think, 'Wow!'"
7. Angelina Jolie, 39 years old.
The actress is constantly called the most beautiful woman in the world. She will turn 40 in June, but her full lips, sharp nose and perfect eyebrows, as well as her entire image, continue to surprise and amaze.
8. Julia Roberts, 47 years old.
While everyone around is arguing about what exactly played the main role in Julia’s beauty - genetics, Botox or surgery, the actress herself talks about a balanced diet and active physical activity and believes that the most important thing in life is peace.
9. Madonna, 56 years old.
Despite her age, Madonna continues to look great. Especially in terms of figure. The singer devotes a huge amount of time to sports and diet.
10. Jennifer Lopez, 45 years old.
Lopez never tires of proving that she is still in perfect shape. The singer regularly demonstrates her half-naked body, choosing rather revealing outfits for going out.
11. Cindy Crawford, 47 years old.
Although many models retire at 25, this '90s supermodel is still in demand.
12. Cate Blanchett, 45 years old.
Tall, slender, with porcelain skin. It's no wonder that in 1999 People magazine included this Oscar-winning actress in its list of the most beautiful women in the world. She calls genes and the joy of motherhood the secret of her wonderful appearance.
13. Gwyneth Paltrow, 42 years old.
“You know what, I love my wrinkles, I love the way I look. Of course, sometimes I get critical and start worrying about one thing or another, but usually I try not to notice the shortcomings. I value my life and the years I have lived, as well as the experiences I have gained.”
14. Carmen Dell'Orefice, 84 years old.
This amazing model is at the peak of its popularity to this day. And this popularity surprises some young models.
15. Eva Mendes, 41 years old.
Heidi has maintained such delicious curves that it is no surprise that the former supermodel, TV presenter and mother of four is dating a 27-year-old man.
18. Demi Moore, 52 years old.
Always well-groomed and fit, Demi Moore does not look her age. Her secret of youth is her stormy personal life. She was always more interested in men than diets.
19. Charlize Theron, 39 years old.
Despite her age, Charlize continues to build an amazing career as an actress and sign multimillion-dollar contracts with leading cosmetic brands. Her secret lies in an active lifestyle: she runs in the morning and tries to walk as often as possible.
20. Sophia Loren, 80 years old.
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