How to answer boldly to I'm waiting for an explanation. How to insult someone beautifully

The day today was frankly not going well since the very morning - I knocked over yogurt on myself and had to change clothes, I crashed into a door at work and got a bruise, and even the new client was completely rude. And even though I have reached the position of senior designer, I still don’t know how to react to rudeness and behave correctly.

I complained to the girls at lunch about all my sorrows, and we got hooked on a new client - after all, some people really don’t have the arrogance, and it’s better to be able to resist it. We had a good chat, learned a lot of useful things, and came up with many ways to respond to rudeness without losing dignity.

Why are people rude to you?

Of course, those who know how to be rude know best how to deal with rudeness. I don't know how, I would rather endure, listen, and apologize - if a person is rude to me, then I'm probably doing something wrong.

Work colleagues advised me to immediately start weaning myself from victimized behavior, and then I had to do a good bit of Googling. Victim behavior, or victim behavior, is a situation in which one person behaves in such a way that it is convenient for another to insult and humiliate him.

Remember, you've probably seen such people - any brawler immediately sees in them fertile ground, they always get stuck in stupid circumstances, something constantly happens to them both at home and at work. So, the reasons for rudeness:

  • you are not ready to respond to rudeness;
  • you do not know how to react correctly to grievances;
  • you feel guilty;
  • you are too soft and pliable a person who is easy to bend to your will.
I understand that every girl will most likely say that she is, like, wow, what a queen, but I advise you to sit down and think carefully with yourself. And you will find situations in which you show your own victimization.

Gentleness is inherent in us by nature, and with the help of good upbringing, every girl can be taught to regularly feel guilty. How to deal with rudeness if you think that you are to blame for it?

How can you learn to respond to harsh words with dignity and justice if you are trembling with fear? We must overcome fear and uncertainty within ourselves.

However, the reasons for rudeness are also different. Learn to quickly determine what kind of mood a person is in, what his thoughts are, and you will understand the essence of his actions. The reasons for rudeness can be:

  • aggression (this applies more to men, they have a fairly high level of aggression and sometimes let off steam on those who are inferior to them in some way);
  • fatigue (as in the situation with my client - the girl was just tired, it seemed to her that I was not too attentive, and she was rude to me);
  • low level of culture (hardly anything can be done here);
  • a feeling of one’s own impunity (when a person is not in a good mood and sees that they will not respond to his rudeness, he can become rude);
  • accident (well, that happens too).
While we were discussing the morning situation with our colleagues (at that time the customer had already called and apologized for her behavior, and I, in turn, apologized for my irritability and complained about a bad day), we recalled various cases of rudeness and impudence.

We agreed that it is not always necessary to respond to insolence - sometimes you still shouldn’t get involved. We need to remember the consequences. But sometimes you can answer beautifully - this will put the rude person in his place and help lift his spirits a little.

What to change in your behavior so that people stop being rude

One of my colleagues goes to work at the same time by public transport, and told us that she regularly sees the same elderly woman who rides around early in the morning and argues with people. Well, that’s what a person’s sport is like.

What is noteworthy is that the woman never turns to those who can somehow respond to her prank - the targets for verbal sparring most often are young people and schoolchildren, who for the most part get confused if an adult swears at them.

Also, quite often, according to my colleague, a woman is rude to her peers, only of a certain category - you probably know those grannies who drive around with pursed lips and the same pursed, peeling reticules, and their hair is tinted blue. Seasoned intelligentsia, as my mother calls them. Such people most often do not stoop to answering rude people.

If you often find yourself wondering how to respond to rudeness, try changing some of your behavior to get people to be more polite to you.

First of all, you need to learn to look confident. A woman who looks confident and behaves beautifully is less likely to encounter rudeness. Straighten your shoulders, straighten your back, lift your chin slightly. You shouldn't smile too widely, but it's better to slightly raise the corners of your mouth - this will give your face a pleasant expression.

Be neat and tidy in your clothing. Most often they are rude to klutzes and slobs.
Do not show sudden mood swings, react to everything sedately and consistently.

How to keep your spirits up if you're being rude

This question for me is one of the most difficult in this whole situation. Because if you want, you can learn to respond, but how to resist rudeness internally so that it doesn’t hurt you is a problem.

I get upset almost to the point of tears when someone tells me something unpleasant. Therefore, it was a big discovery for me - how to protect yourself from rudeness and not ruin your mood. Colleagues helped, as always. I'll tell you too.

The fact is that most often a person is rude sincerely. From the heart. That is, just imagine, everything that he says to your face at some unpleasant moment - he sincerely thinks so.

Sit down and think about what it would be like to be that person. Mentally bring the situation to the point of absurdity. Here I see a beautifully dressed woman of Rubensian form, and that hysterical old woman is a fat cow who took a seat on the tram.

I see a diligent and smiling janitor from one fraternal republic, and my upstairs neighbor is an unpleasant maniac, practically a murderer, who steals a rake.

I see a lot of tired people who patiently stand in traffic jams and want to get home, and that guy who heart-rendingly presses the signal for the fourth time in a minute - he is apparently sure that we are all standing there to spite him. Introduced? I'm absolutely serious. One can only feel sorry for such people.

I'm not saying that you need to show compassion for those who throw mud at you, but it seems to me that after such an “experience” it is much easier not to be offended by a person who says unpleasant things. His world is a disgusting, vile place if he is forced to behave like that.

What to say in response

How to resist rudeness - react or not? Everyone decides this question for themselves in their own way. I think you will have to solve it every time you hear something unpleasant addressed to you. It all depends on the interlocutor, on the mood, on the environment and, in fact, on the words spoken by the interlocutor.

I am in favor of responding to rudeness beautifully, intelligently and politely. So, the best ways to properly respond to a boor.

  1. We devalue what is said, doubting the form. I think you are well aware that some people make mistakes in speaking. One of the easiest ways to pull someone back is to ridicule their mistake. Remember the immortal "Lyudk, oh Lyudk! - Ugh, village!"? Listen carefully to what your opponent says, and become attached to literally every expression. Usually people in the heat of the moment don’t pay too much attention to what and how they say.
  2. Use your interlocutor's tool - generalize! In general, it is very rare that one person has specific complaints against another. Most often, rudeness is the result of a bad mood, and it is expressed to the one who comes to hand. That is, everything that is said to you is actually somehow “mythical to you.”

    To you - to whom? Women? Car enthusiasts? Those who came to work in a red blouse? Point out this point in the dispute, or, on the contrary, call the offender to account for something that he clearly did not do.

  3. Contrast stupidity with beauty! This trick can be learned from those who were involved in any kind of propaganda work in Soviet times. Don't want to work? And in Africa, children are starving! It would seem, how are you to blame for this? But the Russian brain helpfully puts together a logical chain, and somehow it turns out that children in Africa are starving precisely because of you.

    This skill will come in handy in dialogues with nervous older people. In any case, the phrase " Here you are shouting, and in the evenings there are alcoholics sitting on the playground!"in quarrels with a neighbor. I can’t say that this is so beautiful and right, but it works. Do you know how? She immediately understands that yelling at me is a waste of time, after all, I’m a good girl. But alcoholics really I need to drive them. And who will drive them, if not she? And immediately all the passion in my direction disappears.

  4. Well, the last thing that now helps me in my work is when a client starts to interfere with my work process, I ask, Why does he pay me money if he himself knows what will be better? This is a good sobering reminder for those who think they have it all figured out. I say this in a peaceful, friendly tone - just to remind them that they are clients, and they came to me as a professional for services.
Be confident in yourself, come up with good answers and don't take any tram boors to heart!

When faced with rudeness, many are confused, some respond “adequately”, the smartest ones do not react at all. What to do if a colleague, boss, or loved one insults you? Quick response tactics depend on the type of rudeness and the situation.

Many have had and still have to deal with outright rudeness. A painful experience, to say the least. How to behave in such situations? Should I rebuff the offender and, if so, in what form? Let's look at the problem in more detail.

A little theory

What is an insult? This is a deliberate offense, humiliation of a person’s honor and dignity, and in a rude form, with the violation of all socially accepted rules of behavior and moral norms. Insult can be inflicted verbally, in writing and even in actions.

Or you can go to court

Yes, the offender can be put in his place in this way. In Russia, insult is an administrative offense, liability for which is provided for in Article 5.61 of the Code of Administrative Offenses. But the court, as you understand, is better to save for last resorts, and now let’s see how to stand up for ourselves on our own.

How we react

Usually the reaction to rudeness and rudeness is twofold.

The first option: at first we are perplexed (how can this happen in a civilized society?!), then the blood rushes to the face, the heartbeat quickens (because adrenaline is released!) and finally we are overcome with anger, we are ready for a verbal or physical fight.

The second option: the same bewilderment, then the blood drains from the face, because the manifestation of someone else’s rudeness frightens us, and we cannot respond adequately.

According to experts, both options are unproductive. And that's why.

Who is he, the offender?

It turns out that the offender is the victim. A victim of a difficult childhood, or an intolerable character, or bad manners. That is, the most unfortunate person. Also weak. Either stupid or envious. Or maybe humiliated by someone. So at the first opportunity he pours out his negative emotions on you.

Now tell me, is it worth being offended by this? Not to mention letting in the negative expression generated by it.

If the offender is a stranger

Just ignore the words of a stranger that hurt you. Pretend that you don’t notice him, that he’s nothing to you. Turn away if the scene took place in a vehicle, or step aside. Such a reaction will be... offensive to the offender himself, especially if he is a demonstrative psychopath.

If the offender is a colleague or boss

In a work environment, deliberately not noticing offensive attacks directed at you is also a reasonable decision, especially if the source of the negativity is an employee of equal rank with you. But if he still won’t calm down in response to your silence, try responding with a barb or reducing the incident to a joke.

But you shouldn’t joke with your boss. Try to maintain a serene expression on your face, not to show that you are unpleasant, hurt, or offended. And to prevent everything from bubbling inside, psychologists advise imagining the offender in some funny position: for example, on all fours. They say it helps a lot. The main thing is not to laugh in his face. But the presumptuous boss will certainly feel the confidence and strength emanating from you.

If the offender is a loved one

No one, as we know, can hurt us as much as our loved ones. If one of them indulges in barbs, hints, or even direct speech that offends you, do not tolerate it and do not suffer in silence. Immediately say what topic in your communication you consider taboo, what remarks you do not want to hear, what opinion on what subject you are not interested in.

There is no need to arrange a loud showdown. What is said in a quiet voice is much more effective than any hysterics. And if a person really values ​​you, he will understand how not to behave with you. If he envies you, or even just doesn’t like you, think about whether it’s worth maintaining a relationship with him.

Calm, just calm...

So, train a calm reaction to unwanted words and actions of others. Calmness, the absence of acute emotions in response, is a kind of shield that does not allow someone else’s aggression to destroy your psyche, and therefore your health in general.

In any critical situation, it is important to maintain self-esteem, self-confidence and peace of mind. And it doesn’t matter whether you answer the offender or ignore him, he will be disarmed and wonder whether it’s worth treating you this way.

Don't be like a boor

You cannot respond to verbal aggression in kind. Sometimes it is difficult not to succumb to the temptation to humiliate, trample, or shout down a boor, but it’s better not to. Because, firstly, as a result you will feel inner devastation and the resentment will not go away. Secondly, from the outside you will look, at best, ridiculous, and at worst... just as rude as your offender. And thirdly, according to psychologists, this will indicate that he is simply manipulating you.

Don't make excuses

Sometimes, in response to unfair criticism, you want to explain your actions and, thus, justify yourself. You shouldn't do this. Firstly, by trying to prove something to the “critic,” you will put yourself in a humiliating position. And secondly, no one will listen to your arguments. Because the main goal of a critic is to emotionally hurt you and, thanks to this, to assert himself.

If you can’t ignore unfair attacks, just say: I have a different opinion on this matter, and in general I don’t need comments or advice. But remember to keep your cool. Excessive passion can lead you to an argument in which you will get bogged down, to the great joy of the offender.

Keep a sense of humor

Humor, as we know, is a sharp weapon. Some attacks should be answered with a witty joke. Thanks to this reaction, defuse the situation and disarm the offender. He thought that he had struck you, but it turned out that you are invulnerable, you don’t care, the mockery does not achieve its goal. And the offender, like an energy vampire, will quickly lose interest in you and go look for another victim.

Think fast

How often, when faced with a boor and hearing unpleasant words addressed to us, we literally become speechless, unable to quickly and wittyly respond in order to put the presumptuous type in his place. But then wonderful answers come to mind. How to develop the ability to quickly respond adequately?

Experts suggest sharpening your wit in a friendly circle. That is, you meet with friends and start comic duels. A very useful workout for the mind. And the more often you train, the more experience and skill you have.

When you can't be silent or laugh it off

If the offender is trying to offend your honor and dignity, there is no need to remain silent or get off with a joke. Especially if offensive remarks are made in the presence of witnesses. Collect your thoughts and give a worthy answer: calmly, coolly, in a quiet voice. So that everyone understands that you cannot be rude with impunity.

How to avoid becoming a victim

Some people seem to be created to be offended. By the way, in psychology there is even such a thing as victim psychology. The victim person looks and behaves in such a way that he literally provokes insults from all kinds of boors.

Fearfulness, self-doubt, low self-esteem, painful shyness, intimidation - these are the main character traits of this unfortunate man. Hearing swearing addressed to him, he gets scared, becomes numb and cannot bring himself to utter a sound. In this case, a psychologist or independent work on yourself will help.

Instructions

Defense is a normal human reaction. You were insulted, which means you were subjected to a psychological attack. Moreover, the closer the offender is, the more painful the blow. Why is this happening? Because a person who knows all your ins and outs is well aware of your weakest points:
- you are unhappy with your figure and he knows about it; in a fit of anger, he declares something like “watch your weight”, it is clear that in a rude manner;

Or you like to stay at home, run the house, wash floors, fry pies and, accordingly, you get “homemade chicken”. In the worst case scenario, “a domestic chicken that needs to watch its weight.”

From this we can conclude that you shouldn’t let anyone get too close to you - it won’t hurt. But this is a wrong conclusion. Rather, you need to think about what the person really wanted to tell you and why you reacted that way. Once you understand what is behind the insults, you will learn to respond to them.

If they called you names, then first of all they wanted to draw your attention to some problem. Like, hey you, hear me! Perhaps you are not attentive enough - is your abuser having problems at work, a midlife crisis, or a stomach ache? Your answer: find out as accurately as possible what happened.

If an insult touched you to the core, then you believe that the offender told the truth or was close to the truth. Returning to the “chicken” example: you yourself feel fat, unkempt and not interesting to anyone. What to do? Change!

If you react violently to harmless words or are generally inclined to “free interpretation,” then you lack love and tenderness. Now you are attracting attention to yourself with inappropriate behavior and get, if not participation, then at least a scandal, which is still better than nothing. The solution is to build a new relationship with this person, and if that doesn’t work out, break up. You can't build a happy life on insults.

Conclusion: name calling is just a consequence. Look for the reason and work with it. If the words you hear seem offensive only to you, most likely there is a crisis in your relationship. And remember, it’s nothing personal – everyone is just solving their own problems!

Sources:

  • you are being insulted reply

Sometimes a person in childhood, adolescence and even in adulthood can become an object of ridicule or attacks. If for one reason or another he is overweight, rest assured that this will not pass the attention of poorly educated “witty talkers”, and the poor fellow will be called either “fat trust” or another equally offensive nickname. In any group, even among the masses of completely normal people, there will always be not the most intelligent individuals who take pleasure in mocking others, sometimes bringing them to tears. What to do in such a situation?

What, for example, should a schoolchild who is called names or teased by cruel peers act? Of course, you can try to defend your dignity by using force. And in some cases this is really the only way out; unfortunately, there are people who do not understand another language. But, firstly, the offender may be physically stronger. Secondly, there may be several of them. Thirdly, it may not be the offender, but the offender. Don’t hit (even if it’s openly mean)! In general, physical force should be used only in extreme cases.

First of all, the child and his parents should clearly and clearly understand that a painful reaction to offensive nicknames (anger and, especially, tears) is a real gift to those who tease him. And the more the child shows that he is offended by offensive nicknames, the more willingly and zealously they will continue their “dirty work.” Unfortunately, there are such people, there is no escape from this. As a rule, they “feed” on the tears of strangers, this adds to them a certain superiority (of course, in their opinion).

Therefore, no matter how difficult it may be, you should try to control yourself. The best reaction to all the efforts of offenders is contemptuous indifference. Very soon they will get tired of wasting time in vain, and they will fall behind, switching to searching for another “victim”.

If it is impossible to tolerate their antics, you can try to “beat your enemies with their own weapons.” The offender (or offenders) probably have their own “weak points.” You just need to look closely and find them. Anyone who is accustomed to mocking others usually does not expect that he himself may be the object of ridicule, and very sharp and caustic ones at that. The stronger will be the shock of the “witties” when they start calling them names.

Well, if nothing helps, then you should transfer the child to another school.

Sources:

  • what to do if they call you names at school

Tip 3: What to do if you are stopped by a security guard at the supermarket

Any store needs protection from large and small thieves. Therefore, video cameras and respectable security guards with walkie-talkies are an indispensable attribute of supermarkets. It happens that if they suspect theft, they detain citizens and conduct a search. However, if you look into the situation, it turns out that they do not have very much authority.

Let's start with the fact that security guards are the same store service personnel as cashiers and merchandisers. Therefore, they should treat you politely. If a security guard behaves rudely and opens his hands, this is a reason to call the manager or even call the police.


The guards do not have any authority to conduct searches. They are the same citizens as buyers and have the same rights and responsibilities. It is not their responsibility to search your personal belongings. If you are suspected of , they should politely stop you, explain the nature of the complaint and call the police. Only people in uniform can interrogate you.


If a security guard takes you harshly, calls you names or a thief, you need to ask him for his personal data and the data of the private security company for which he works. Then, with this data, having secured the testimony of witnesses, you can go to court demanding moral compensation. If a security guard behaved rudely, the private security company’s license may be revoked.

In any school there is a special caste of children who keep students in fear and do not allow teachers to work in peace. How to protect your child from school bullies?

Instructions

Teach your child correctly when meeting with a bully. Such children bully

When faced with rudeness, you always want to respond to the offender. In a fit of anger, we often do not control our feelings and emotions. This can cause a number of negative consequences. The simplest outcome of them is a quarrel, and the most negative is a fight. But, you must admit, to suffer yourself and humiliate yourself to assault just because your interlocutor is in a bad mood is, at the very least, stupid.

The most correct thing in such a situation is to answer the offender calmly and confidently, but in such a way as to put the boor in his place. To do this tactfully, without spending extra effort and energy, there are special preparations - daring phrases.

Who is this boor?

This is an aggressor who attacks and violates your personal boundaries. He tries to hurt the most painful places and at the same time avoid revenge. Scientific information indicates that such a person is, in fact, a pitiful person with low self-esteem who wants to assert himself at the expense of those who have been offended or ridiculed by him. Here's what you need to know when faced with a boor. Understand and forgive, or even take pity on an insignificant person, or respond with a witty phrase, smiling good-naturedly (not sarcasticly!).

Examples of situations when anger cannot be contained

A decent-looking person who is a boor can be found today at every step. Often the most common places where it is located are the following:

1. Trading platforms. The favorite place of a bored, angry person is, of course, a market or a supermarket. In some cases, a pharmacy is popular. Firstly, you can go there as an excursion and be outraged to your heart's content, studying the prices on the shelves. Secondly, hanging out in the crowd is also a nice thing for them. And all this, of course, is accompanied by unpleasant comments addressed to passers-by. By the way, store sellers also like to be rude.

2. Public transport. The favorite place of all boors is the crowd. And where else can you enjoy disturbances as much as in the crush of traffic during rush hour? There you pushed, here - you. And as a result, for example, we have a heatedly screaming woman who throws out her anger at everyone who tries to argue with her. And God forbid you surpass her in this honed skill.

3. Clinic. A government agency, where you always have to wait in line, also knows daring people. This could be an impudent person who will try to skip the line. But then he will receive a good verbal thrashing from the people waiting in line, among whom boors may also be hiding.

4. Places of study. Adolescence is famous for the “painful” growing up of children. How is it shown? Impudent phrases addressed to teachers, bickering in lessons at school, lyceums. Teenagers cannot give an objective assessment of what is happening. It seems to them that they already know everything, and adults are a little behind them. Unfortunately, rudeness and impudent phrases in the lessons of high school students are quite commonplace. The teacher can put the student in his place, gaining authority in his eyes, or not pay attention to what he “outgrows” by itself.

Daring phrases and expressions: examples

  • And it’s true that we are all interested in speculating on topics that don’t concern us at all.
  • You shouldn't expect any good from a person who is difficult to cheer up.
  • I know that crooks achieve success, but not because of their own intelligence, as they believe, but because of the gullible people around them. And to lie, you don’t need intelligence. Working honestly is a skill.
  • I’m terribly embarrassed to tell you this, but I’m not at all interested in how I look in your eyes, forgive me. I look great in mine, and that's enough.

  • What is the level of development, so are the interests.
  • You are so low in communication that, frankly, you are not even visible on the horizon.
  • Please continue. When you say things like that, I feel so smart.
  • Sorry, but you smell a bad odor coming from your mouth.
  • Maybe I can bring you another drum?
  • With such tirades you can only stand in the corner.
  • If you are angry, then you yourself know that you are wrong.
  • In this case, your emotions are not identified with the conclusions of your thinking.
  • If you don't like me, I allow you to go underground.

Sassy phrases for girls

If a girl does not want to communicate with a guy, but cannot get rid of his pestering, or vice versa, she is struggling with his rudeness, perhaps she should use some phrases.

For example:

  • Your time in my life is over. Hand in your pass and head out.
  • If you fell in love with me, it's your mistake, all you can achieve is my smile.
  • Dear, you are right - there have never been people like you, there are no more and there is no need.
  • What I should do, I know, it’s written in the Constitution. The rest is up to me as I want.
  • I'm doing great, so I have nothing to please you with.
  • Aren't you the one who starred in the movie "Clowns"?
  • I'm not picky, just the best is enough for me.

What about the guys?

Not only girls suffer from annoying boors. Let's look at some sassy phrases for guys. They can use these statements in response to the rudeness of their peers:

  • You're not beautiful enough to be rude to me.
  • If you say that, then most likely you have a spare jaw in your pocket.
  • Kiss me on the run, I'm standing behind a tree.
  • You may be the most beautiful girl in our area, but I’m also interested in communicating with smart people.

So, the first foundation has been laid. Now you know how to respond to rudeness. But under no circumstances should you parry these statements in front of an innocent person. Otherwise you will find yourself in the role of a boor.

There are times when we see the only opportunity to stand up for ourselves in the ability to insult our interlocutor. It is worth recognizing that this method is not always justified, and, at times, can even lead to negative consequences. But there are still situations when it is very difficult to do without it. There can be many such situations, and we will consider some of them in more detail. Self-defense When someone allows themselves to speak offensively towards us, we often “boil” in response. It’s rare that someone manages to restrain their emotions in such a situation and ignore the attacks of an aggressive interlocutor. Of course, if a person has managed to achieve the highest degree of self-control or simply cannot decide to respond to an offensive remark, then he is able to ignore negative words addressed to him. And yet, more often than not, it is not easy to restrain yourself. Protecting the Weak There are situations when we are unable to ignore the fact that someone allows himself to be offensive towards another person. This is especially unbearable to watch when your spouse, your child, a shy girl, or even an unfamiliar pensioner comes under fire from offensive words. In general, aggression awakens in many of us when a weaker person suffers and finds it difficult to stand up for himself. Of course, in this case, the injured party needs protection, and will undoubtedly feel a deep sense of gratitude when receiving it. Animal protection This point is somewhat similar to the previous one, but the difference is that this time we are not talking about a weak person, but about an animal. Some of us, seeing, for example, how teenagers torture a cat or a drunken person kicks a dog, try to pretend that they simply do not notice what is happening, but the majority still cannot look indifferently at the suffering of “lesser brothers.” Of course, in this case, insults on your part will be more than justified.

How to morally humiliate a person without swearing

Not each of us is able to humiliate a person without resorting to swear words. However, if you learn this, then you can say that you have mastered the art of the most “subtle” insults.

Clever phrases to shut someone up

If you want to put a person in his place with some kind of veiled insult, take note of a few phrases.
    Open your mouth at the dentist! Usually, those who meddle in someone else's life are those who can't manage their own. Don't fall under the hot hand, so as not to fly under the hot foot.

Cool and funny insults

Such insults may seem cool and funny not only to the person who utters them, but also to the person to whom they apply. However, it all depends on how touchy your interlocutor is. If he is too sensitive to the slightest hint of insults and is overly vulnerable, then, of course, he will not find it funny in this situation.
    Shut your laugher already! Stop waving your tongue like a flag at a parade.

Offensive cutting phrases

If you want to offend someone with a caustic and offensive phrase, then, apparently, this person really managed to offend you. Of course, you should never show that you are offended or angry - in this case, you will not achieve the desired effect. Say caustic phrases in a calm tone, which can easily be accompanied by a slight grin.
    It looks like the stork dropped someone along the way. And more than once. You would have been taken to the Kunstkamera during your lifetime. One more phrase like this, and you will have to move through life in jerks. You should think about saving nature by sterilizing yourself. It is probably difficult for you to love nature, after what it has done to you.

How to politely send a person away by calling him witty words

You may well offend a person, even if you are on “you” terms with him. To do this, it is not at all necessary to switch to swear words or direct insults. One witty phrase is enough. Therefore, you can even say that in this way you will send a person culturally.
    Are you leaving already? Why so slowly? I’m too busy a person to pay attention to your complexes. Shock me, finally say something smart. It looks like you never got over your youthful maximalism. You should be silent more often, you’d be considered smart I hope that you are not always so stupid, but just today.
And yet, most likely, you understand that in the case where we insult someone else, it is quite difficult to talk about any level of culture. Often such conversations simply slide into an ugly squabble.

Play on his weaknesses and complexes

If the situation develops in such a way that you have to insult a woman (note that these are still the most extreme situations), then, of course, you can play on her complexes. Most often, a woman's weak point is her appearance. Even if she doesn't show that your words hurt her in any way, most likely, you will still achieve your goal - she will remember what you said and it will bother her. It is also worth noting that some men can also be offended by mentioning their appearance or physical parameters. Although most often a male representative can be offended by mentioning his unenviable mental qualities, most men react quite painfully to these remarks. So, some examples:
    Alas, you cannot save the world with beauty. However, also with your mind. Woman, you are not so beautiful as to be rude to people. Just by looking at you, I can believe that man really descended from a monkey. Don’t worry, maybe one day you will say something smart. Where did you learn do makeup in Valuev’s style? What, no one wants to get married, that’s why she’s so angry? Is everything really tight? Well, at least try to scatter your bone marrow. It’s immediately obvious that your parents dreamed of you running away from home. It’s true what they say that the brain is not everything. In your case, it's nothing at all.

Create long-term systematic pressure on the enemy

Naturally, at this point we are talking about psychological pressure - the influence on interlocutors that occurs with the aim of changing their psychological attitudes, decisions and opinions. Often this method is used in situations where, for some reason, you cannot openly be rude to a person, but you also cannot help but react to his behavior. So, what types of psychological pressure exist? Moral pressure This can also be called humiliation, which is expressed in the desire to morally suppress the interlocutor. You systematically point out some characteristic of a person, even if your words do not correspond to reality. Thus, you deliberately sow complexes in your opponent. For example, you can always hint or directly tell someone: “How stupid you are,” “You are very clumsy,” “You still need to lose weight,” and the like. In this case, it becomes difficult for the interlocutor to control himself, and if at first he practically does not pay attention to your words, then later they begin to seriously offend him. It is important to note that this technique is appropriate for people who suffer from self-doubt. Compulsion This method can be used by a person who is endowed with some kind of power - finances, information or even physical strength. In this case, the opponent is unable to provide a worthy rebuff, realizing that in this case he may suffer financially, not receive the necessary information, and so on. Belief This type of psychological pressure can be called the most rational. By using it, you are trying to appeal to a person’s logic and reason. This method is applicable to people of normal intelligence who are able to understand what you are trying to convey to them. A person who is trying to act by persuasion must select the most logical and demonstrative phrases, avoiding doubts and uncertainty in his tone. It is important to understand that as soon as the “victim” begins to notice any inconsistencies, the force of such pressure will begin to weaken. Suspension In this case, the person makes an attempt to “starve out” the interlocutor. You try to put pressure on someone, but when they try to catch you in this, you move away or move on to other topics. You can also respond by accusing your opponent of making things up, twisting things, and so on. Suggestion This method of psychological attack can only be used by a person who is in some way an authority for his “victim.” One way or another, you are trying to suggest something to your interlocutor, speaking in hints or directly.

Is it acceptable to use obscene name-calling and swearing?

Of course, we are not always able to control ourselves and cope with ourselves in peak situations, but you should make every effort to achieve this. If it has come to the point that you see no other way but to be rude to a person, then try to do it subtly and beautifully. As they say, there is no need to stoop to the level of “bazaar women.” Of course, if you couldn’t restrain yourself and started swearing, then there’s nothing you can do about it, but still try to prevent this from happening and put the person “in his place” in other ways. The point is not that you can especially hurt with swearing interlocutor. It is simply believed that a person who has “sank” to swearing is not able to defend his opinion in ordinary words - to some extent, this is how we demonstrate our own inconsistency. Of course, it’s a different matter if, in principle, you always communicate with abundant use of swear words, but that’s a completely different conversation.

How to Learn Sarcasm Using Sassy Funny Words

Having learned to use impudent and funny expressions appropriately, you will certainly be able to gain fame in your close circle as a person with a good sense of humor and mastery of the technique of sarcasm. But it is important not to forget that insolence can be fraught with consequences, and with such phrases you can provoke your interlocutor to an unpredictable reaction.
    Go, lie down, rest. Well, at least on the rails. I could have offended you, of course, but nature has already done it for me. Nobody scares you, you will be scared in front of the mirror. A stapler would not hurt your mouth at all. Well, I rang the chain, now to the booth go.
Understanding the art of sarcasm And yet, it is important to note that people who know how to express themselves in a sarcastic manner do not always use this skill when trying to insult or humiliate someone. Often, sarcasm is heard when some non-trivial situation is being commented on - then it looks funny and organic. It is almost impossible to comprehend the art of sarcasm for a person whose vocabulary is not particularly diverse and whose horizons are rather limited. That is why it is worth reading and learning more. Type into the search: “Authors who write with humor.” As you yourself understand, truly “sharp” phrases are in any case made up of words, the variety of which you can easily glean from intellectual films and books. By the way, examples of some witty phrases can also be seen in books. As a last resort, learn sarcasm from people who make a living from their jokes - we are talking about participants and hosts of various comedy television shows. If you want to be known as a truly witty person, then do not repeat the mistake that is common to many novice jokers or people who imagine themselves like this. Having heard or read some interesting joke or funny expression, they periodically repeat it in order to make their interlocutor laugh. The first couple of times it can be really funny, but then people start smiling just out of politeness, and that’s for the time being. As you understand, it is simply unacceptable for anyone to associate a master of sarcasm with a broken record.

If you want to be rude beautifully, then it is appropriate to use phrases that your interlocutor has probably not heard yet or those to which he will not immediately come up with a witty answer. In this case, you will probably look more advantageous. So, perhaps some of these statements will seem appropriate to you.
    If these beeps continue to come from your platform, then your dental composition will have to move. Are you sick or do you always look like this? You should be in a tube right now. Pay attention to the baseboard so as not to forget about your level. I would laugh at you, but life has already done it for me.
We take into account the possible consequences When entering into an argument with an aggressive interlocutor, it would be foolish not to take into account the possible consequences of this step. You must understand and be prepared for the fact that you will have to move from words to action if, for example, you threaten someone with physical harm. If your opponent provokes you into further actions, and you simply begin to ignore him, then all your threats simply lose their meaning. Of course, it can also turn out differently - the person will be frightened by your words and become silent. However, you must be prepared for different developments if you decide to enter into conflict. When not to resort to insults All your “biting phrases” and “beautiful insults” have no meaning if you decide to use them when communicating with an insane person. So, what kind of person can be called insane? First of all, we mean the interlocutor who is under strong alcohol or drug influence. Surely, such a person will simply not be able to appreciate the subtlety of your insults - he simply will not hear them, or will react inadequately, even if your words are not too offensive. It’s really better not to mess with such people, even if they try to hurt you in every possible way. Your task is to completely leave their field of vision and not enter into a meaningless conflict. If a drunk person offends a weaker person, then, of course, you need to help the offended party, but verbal skirmishes are unlikely to give any positive results. In any case, if you are sure that in the current situation you can do without insults, solving the problem in some way or another method, it’s better not to go as far as swearing. It is possible that later you will have to regret your incontinence. As we have already mentioned, it is appropriate to take this step only in case of protection (of yourself or a loved one). If you yourself initiate such conversations, you will very soon gain a reputation as a boor and brawler.



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